by Ivy Hughes | Jul 2, 2019 | Cancer grief, Life after breast cancer, Life after cancer, Mindfulness, Raising kids after cancer, Raising twins, Surviving cancer, Survivorship, Uncategorized
Most weekday mornings at my house start with a boob search party. “Boys,” I say. “Help me find my boobs.” “Mama, boob. Mama boob,” says Ryder as he squats down to look under my bed. “Hmmmm,” says Loren, following his mother’s verbal thought cues. My two year olds are...
by Ivy Hughes | Jun 22, 2019 | Life after breast cancer, Life after cancer, Mindfulness, Relationships after cancer, Survivorship, Women empowerment
If I could put the love that I feel for the women in my life into a capsule and get any guy to swallow it, I would silver platter myself the perfect partner. With the exception of romantic love, the women in my life tick every love box any psychologist anywhere could...
by Ivy Hughes | May 8, 2019 | Life after breast cancer, Life after cancer, Mindfulness, Relationships after cancer, Sex after cancer, Surviving cancer, Survivorship
Reclaiming your sexual self after cancer sucks. It’s like falling off of a shiny new Gary Fisher and then being given a unicycle with a flat tire and a rusty chain. It takes effort where effort wasn’t previously required and it forces the issue of how to be in a...
by Ivy Hughes | Apr 30, 2019 | Life after breast cancer, Life after cancer, Mindfulness, Surviving cancer, Surviving narcissists, Survivorship, Women empowerment, Yoga
If you’ve never been to a yoga teacher training, know that at some point during it, someone always loses their shit. The experience opens, closes and massages tender places of not just the body, but also the soul, resulting in a lot of emotional upheaval from the...
by Ivy Hughes | Apr 19, 2019 | Cancer ruins relationships, Life after cancer, Mindfulness, Relationships after cancer, Surviving cancer
I wasn’t married last year when I started cancer treatment, but I fall among the fifty percent of relationships that kaput after cancer. Last year, I had what I guess you call a “partner” and I have to say, the betrayal resulting from the way he treated me during my...
by Ivy Hughes | Apr 11, 2019 | Life after cancer, Mindfulness, Relationships and sex, Surviving cancer
The other day my ex said, “you have sociopathic tendencies.” Luckily, as such, that comment and the subsequent insults didn’t sting. Not at all. For those of you who haven’t Googled whether your ex is a sociopath, psychopath, or narcissist, let me extrapolate....
