by Ivy Hughes | Jun 22, 2020 | Coronavirus, COVID-19, Grief, Mindfulness
Last night I murdered a man, cut him up in quadrants, left him in the middle of my bedroom floor and cleaned my house. When I finished, I put his severed body, which was shockingly weighty, and several bags of trash into an alley dumpster. I waited for the police....
by Ivy Hughes | Apr 13, 2020 | Coronavirus, Coronavirus and death, Grief, Mindfulness, Survivorship
Today was hard. Today, I felt what it’s going to be like when my parents die. First, I woke in the wee small hours of the morning because I felt one of my children scream. I have two boys. They are two and are currently with their father, with whom I share custody....
by Ivy Hughes | Oct 15, 2019 | Life after breast cancer, Life after cancer, Mindfulness, Self love, Surviving narcissists, Survivorship
One of the saddest objects of affection is the unsent love letter. A few weeks ago, following two glasses of wine, I furiously wrote one of these and then hid it beneath my yoga teaching journals. Along with moaning about life and unfairness and all the other BS that...
by Ivy Hughes | Jul 2, 2019 | Cancer grief, Life after breast cancer, Life after cancer, Mindfulness, Raising kids after cancer, Raising twins, Surviving cancer, Survivorship, Uncategorized
Most weekday mornings at my house start with a boob search party. “Boys,” I say. “Help me find my boobs.” “Mama, boob. Mama boob,” says Ryder as he squats down to look under my bed. “Hmmmm,” says Loren, following his mother’s verbal thought cues. My two year olds are...
by Ivy Hughes | Jun 22, 2019 | Life after breast cancer, Life after cancer, Mindfulness, Relationships after cancer, Survivorship, Women empowerment
If I could put the love that I feel for the women in my life into a capsule and get any guy to swallow it, I would silver platter myself the perfect partner. With the exception of romantic love, the women in my life tick every love box any psychologist anywhere could...
by Ivy Hughes | May 8, 2019 | Life after breast cancer, Life after cancer, Mindfulness, Relationships after cancer, Sex after cancer, Surviving cancer, Survivorship
Reclaiming your sexual self after cancer sucks. It’s like falling off of a shiny new Gary Fisher and then being given a unicycle with a flat tire and a rusty chain. It takes effort where effort wasn’t previously required and it forces the issue of how to be in a...
